Struggles

Loneliness

“You shall have no other gods before me.” Deuteronomy 5:7

One of the hard things about being a stay at home mom is the loneliness that seems to come with it.

There have been times I have had friends to go through this season of life with, but there has been much time in which there has been little, if no interaction with anyone taller than my waist during the daytime hours.

For the last year or so, I have been in one of my “lonely” seasons.

Most of my friends live far away or are busy during the day.  My husband works during the day.  My older kids are at school during the day.  Our two year old is also extremely active and smart and quick, so I go long stretches without leaving my house if it is not absolutely necessary.

I am an extrovert.  I thrive from being around people, but lately that hasn’t been an option. And, I have come to accept it as God’s way of getting my attention.

In my life, I have often elevated people, their attention, and their approval, to a “god” level in my life.  When I have walked through seasons of close friendships, I often ran to my friends with my troubles, instead of to my Lord’s feet.  I’ve looked to them for advice, instead of searching God’s Word.  I’ve celebrated triumphs with them more than I celebrated them with the One I should lavish with praise.

In the past, when I’ve walked through the lonely times, God got me to that point on purpose, because He knows me and He knows I need to be alone to really, truly listen to Him and put Him first.

And you know what?  I have turned to Him.  I have drawn closer to Him.  I run to Him when I am sad, scared, and happy.  My heart has been renewed by knowing that no matter what He is always with me. (Hebrews 13:5)

As much good as I feel comes out of these seasons, I hope it is not always like this.  One of God’s great blessings is community and I hope that will be a part of my life again some time.  But, more than that, I hope that in my heart I learn to place God in His rightful place as God and never again let anything—or anyone take that Holy place in my heart.

How about you?  Do you or have you struggled with loneliness?  Did you learn anything from that struggle? Did you do anything that helped you connect more with others?

Do you have a friend who may be struggling with loneliness?  How can you reach out to them today?

 

 

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